Rules for Life: A Guest Blog by Lyn Midnight

Hey All!  It’s another round robin of Life List Club advice and fun!  Be sure to spend your holidays de-stressing with us and staying on track with your goals.  Today, I’m happy to feature Lyn Midnight from Against the Odds who gives us her rules for life.  And I’m sharing all things to be thankful for over at Pam Hawley’s Hawleyville!  See you soon!

Lyn Midnight’s Rules for Life

Have I mentioned I like to make lists?

I usually use my super list-making powers for mundane things: people’s birthdays, grocery lists, and guest-posts. Only recently have I realized I’d need a whole other kind of list too. Let me explain.

There are things I know that I want. Then there are things I suspect that I need. Finally, there are things I may want and/or need but absolutely know they’re bad for me. Anyone relating so far?  Basically, I made a Rules for Life list. That way, whenever I need some perspective or reminding, the list does both for me. If I’m tempted to do something I shouldn’t do, I look at the list. Granted, sometimes I do it anyway… live and learn, right? But at least I can’t say I didn’t warn me.

To show you what I mean, I’ve included my list below. Feel free to share your own list of Rules for Life or comment on mine. Some items have been omitted for personal reasons. Some other items should have been… maybe. Also, you might notice that the reason I made this list of rules was because of a guy… or a series of ‘wrong guys’ to be exact. Come on, everyone should have related by now!


1. NEVER fall for the same guy twice. NEVER go backwards.
Obviously, I don’t want to go back. Falling for someone and having my heart stomped on once is enough, thank you very much. Moving onto the next heartbreak… at least it’s a step forward.
2. Do NOT fall (or sleep with) a friend.
Ahem. I might as well stamp ‘friend whore’ on my forehead. Let’s just say I’ve been known to fall for my guy friends… which probably has some Freudian explanation I don’t feel like sharing here. However, I do realize I must break the pattern. Friendship should be more important than love/sex. Period.
3. Do NOT dwell on anything.
As you may know, I have my degree in Psychology. This one time I read a paper about men and women’s different styles of coping. If something bad happens, women jump into analyzing what went wrong and venting, while men just ignore and push it aside while they look for appropriate solutions to their problems. To be honest, I’d like to be a guy for this reason alone.  They don’t over-analyze or get stuck in over-thinking loops of madness. And this is where I remind myself that I can actually LEARN to do the same. Surprisingly, I’ve gotten better at it with practice.
4. Only consider available guys.
One would think I know this already. Alas, my super self-sabotaging powers override my super list-making ones. Not sure where the desire to humiliate and hurt myself comes from, but it’s very important to keep the emotionally stunted boogie monsters at bay. List-worthy.
5. This item has been omitted. Bloody good one though.
6. Do NOT bring your phone on a night out.
Whoops, I’ve been breaking this rule. I keep hoping that I can keep my phone on me when I go out, and then I make a blunder such as calling or texting someone I should not be calling or texting.
7. Do things as soon as you can.
Postponing’s my bitch. And we’ll live happily ever after…
8. Sleep 8 hours, eat healthy, and stay energized.
Let’s see… I’ve been sleeping 10 hours (bitten by the unemployment bug… or is it called the crisis bug now?). I’ve been eating nothing but Subway, beans, and sweets. Apparently, they mix well together. And I have been stoked on Coca Cola instead of making coffee like a normal person. Sigh.
I really wish I didn’t have to include this in the list…
10. Turn every negative thought into a positive one.
This is the big one. If I could do that on a regular basis, I know I’d live a happier life. (Duh.) Even though it’s not as easy as it sounds, the rewards are huge. And lasting. Just ask Dr. Seligman, the foremost specialist in Positive Psychology. I’d definitely give his books a read if I were you.

Now then… give me YOUR rules. I always love good company in list-making!

     Lyn Midnight writes in various genres and formats (fantasy, scifi, poetry), and likes to blog about anything her heart desires over at Lyn Midnight Against the Odds. She is currently working on a scifi novel and managing another blog – The Burning of Innocence – where she posts fantasy flash chapters. The person behind the handle is a Psychology graduate and eternal nomad, trying to make her big break somewhere in England. Long live the Queen! And long live our dreams.

22 responses

  1. Turn every negative thought into a positive one. Your post was great simply by your writing that one line.
    Thank you for reminding me. I’m still trying to pull off THAT one.

    1. Oh my god, aren’t we all?! My inner Mrs. Danvers is coming out again. I’m going to beat her! Best of luck with your battle, Patti.

    2. Yeap, it’s really a big one. Once you stop postponing, it’ll be a real pleasure to make it happen. Good luck with it and thanks for stopping by! 🙂

  2. Great list, Lyn! I love #3-that’s my downfall and should be #1 on my own list! #10 is one I work on constantly…nobody likes a whiner so I try to stay positive. I would only add…keep moving so the devil can’t get ya. By moving, I mean exercise. It does so much to clear your head, gives you time to think, and boosts those endorphins which help you stay positive.

    1. That’s one I’ve fallen away from, the exercise part. I must get back in the habit cause it does make me feel good. I’ll need to figure out what other part of my day gets cut or shortened so I can include it again.

    2. Oh right! I did have that one as well… however, I’m not big on exercising. It’s a wonder I’m not grumpy all the time, lol. Thanks and stay positive, Marcia!

  3. Eating healthy, writing, and positive thinking are all on mine as well. (I’m doing okay on all but the eating) For me I would add, setting aside time for family and working on my mothering (sometimes I feel like a complete failure in that department) Great post Violeta!

    1. In response to your mothering worries, remember Violeta’s rule of turning every negative thought to a positive one! You are only one woman, and you aren’t raising your children alone, you have help, friends and family who love them. And you love them. Even though there may be times they get mad at you, they’ll understand you’re doing what you think is best for them.

    2. That’s a good one, Jen. I would have had the same rule if I had a family… but I should add spend time with my friends… thought I do it all the time anyway. Actually, I think my list is good as it is, lol. Thanks!!!

  4. Excellent rules for life. 😀 One of my rules is to never yell or call names during a fight with hubby. Given my temper, it’s hard to restrain myself. I don’t think hubby has the same problem. Still, we’ve both followed those rules for over 11 years and it’s worked pretty well. 😀

    1. Good rule for a marriage Sonia! I should take your advice. I’ve been a bit testy lately and it’s just due to other stress, shouldn’t take it out on him. I will try to be more patient.

    2. Lol, I had no idea you had a bad temper missy! Thanks for sharing.

  5. First off, I love your name. You sound like either a superhero or a detective in a fast-paced murder mystery.

    And I have to say, I wholeheartedly agree with list item # 1, but wholeheartedly disagree with list item # 2. All based on personal experience, of course. As for # 5? Totally!

    1. Yeah, number 2 can be argued on, but I’m good with that rule for now. Anyway, it’s not my real name but a pseudonym, which is why it sounds so cool. :b Thanks for stopping by and sharing. Yeah, that number 5’s a killer one. Too bad you can’t see what it is. 😀

      1. For the record, Violeta is an equally cool name. Very beautiful!

  6. Great list, Lyn! I am sooo curious about # 5 : ).

    1. I too wish I knew what #5 was. Maybe you’ll write a book about it one day.

    2. Let’s just say it’s somewhat of a taboo. 😉

  7. I fell for the same guy twice and married him. Other than that, I think I keep/kept all the rules. Maybe I broke number 5, too?

    1. Seeing as you two are about to have a baby, I hope you’re happy you broke rule number 1! Congrats!

  8. TELL those you love all about it. Every day. 🙂

    1. Phenomenal rule, Jenny! Definitely!

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