Top 5 Reasons It’s Fun To Plan Your Best Friend’s Wedding

Today I officiate my best friend’s wedding.  A few months ago, yours truly, got ordained through the Universal Life Church in order to perform the ceremony for my best friend’s wedding.

The process of planning the ceremonyhas been lovely.  This week for ROW80, my goals involved final wedding plans like arranging the ceremony, leading the “rehearsal dessert”, and today is the big day!  Wish my bestie, Cat, and her fiance’, Aaron, a very happy life together!

The Happy Couple!

Top 5 Reasons It’s Fun to Plan Your Best Friend’s Wedding

#5.  Becoming a Member of the Clergy

It’s cool you guys, I have a certificate and everything.  I’m totally legit.  Catherine wouldn’t let me wear a Pope Hat at the wedding, but I will make her call me Vicar Witkins before the day is through!

#4.  Shocking Your Fundamentalist Father With A Message Like “Guess What I Did Today?  . . . xo, Pastor Jess”

Every time I told someone I got ordained they laughed at me.  Can’t really argue with them, I laughed at Cat when she asked me.  Little did I know…

But once I got my certificate, I couldn’t wait to tell my Dad!  He was more enthused over the fact I can also perform funerals; thinks he’s gonna save a bundle by me speaking at his death.  Just cause he’s family doesn’t mean he gets a discount! 

#3.  Learning About Various Religions

In my extensive wedding planning research, I came across numerous wedding customs and traditions.  It was fascinating to know what different cultures deem meaningful in the union of two people.  Cat’s ceremony includes elements of christianity and pagan customs.  Handfasting is one element she liked, and you can read about it here, but this is only one version of its practice, it is found in many different cultures and varied in each from the color meanings to the strands of ribbon being tied or untied.

Cat’s ceremony also includes some sections from her grandmother’s ceremony, after whom Catherine’s middle name, Helen, is for.  What a privileged treasure for her to send the transcription of that ceremony to me so I could incorporate it into her own.

#2.  2 a.m. Wedding Playlist Text Sessions

Nothing like a 1-2 a.m. text session where the bride asks if you’re still up then sends you some lyrics from a mix cd you made her a year ago asking the song title and artist.  Bonus, I knew it!  Loved chatting with you, Cat!

Then of course there’s the dress fittings and emailed pictures of flower arrangements…

#1.  Telling the Bride and Groom How Much You Love Them in Front of Their Nearest and Dearest

The only portion I didn’t let Cat see of the ceremony is the “Sentiments of the Officiant”, which is me, by the way.  I’m pretty excited to get to share reasons why I love this woman in front of her closest friends and family.  It’s special, and I’m honored to do so.  Just hope I don’t cry!

That’s it folks!  Raise a toast to my best friend on her wedding day and wish me luck!  I know she’s going to love what I have planned:  “Mahwage!  Mahwage is what bwings us heah togetha today…”  You’re right, quoting Princess Bride is not an acceptable form of legal ceremony, but it would be really fun!

How are your ROW80 goals going?

31 responses

  1. You made me smile. Especially that ending. Hope you and your friends have a beautiful day.

    1. Thanks Madge! Headed out in just a few minutes now! It’s going to be wonderful!

  2. Oh my gosh, this is so cool!! Many happy wishes to the couple. 🙂

    1. Thank you Myndi! Everything went beautifully!

  3. Wow! Good luck on the whole “not crying” thing! 🙂 And best wishes to the almost-newlyweds. I’m sure it’s going to be an unforgettable ceremony.

    1. All the guests loved it! A very beautiful, unique and intimate ceremony.

  4. It’s so cool that you’re doing this for your best friend! Cry? Uh, yeah, you’re gonna cry for sure! (Well I would, if it were me-I cry at everything though) I’d love to be there and hear your ‘love’ speech. I’m sure you’re having a fantastic day!

    1. One of the best days! I did immediately tear up. I was fine until Cat came down the aisle with tears in her eyes. And my opening remarks were about my best friend. I regained composure.

  5. Congratulations for getting ordained and best wishes to the lucky couple. The wedding preparations sound wonderful. You really should include something from the Princess Bride to your speech 😀

    1. Maybe I can do that at the reception…

  6. So cool! And I love the Princess Bride mahwage scene too 🙂

    1. Now if only I could get my hands on that costume!

  7. So awesome! This sounds like it is going to be an absolutely amazing experience — congrats to your friend Cat and her fiance. 😀

    1. Thank you Lena! It was wonderful! I had so much fun helping make my best friend happy.

  8. This is awesome! You can marry Tara and I. At Voodoo Doughnut. They hold weddings there, you know!!

    1. Oh I totally would! But doesn’t Cat Daddy do that himself? That’s the owner’s name isn’t it? If he’s busy, I’m so in!

      1. Yes, it is Cat Daddy. I’m impressed you knew that!

        1. You dare to doubt my Voodoo Donut knowledge?! Silly man.

  9. Glad it was a smashing success. I really need to hunt down my ULC certificate. I think it may have perished during my last move. 😦

    1. You might be able to order a new certificate from their website. They should still have it on file I would think.

  10. I always wondered how that Princess Bride scene would be spelled. Loved the post and all five points! 🙂

    Happy, happy wedding!!

    1. WANA Weddings! What’s next?

      Thanks, Jenny! It was a very happy day indeed. Perfect weather and wonderful people and good times by all.

  11. I like the scene from Four Weddings and a Funeral where the new vicar fumbles the words (including a reference to the Holy Goat instead of the Holy Ghost). I’m glad you got through it better than he did (the actor was Mr. Bean). What a lovely experience! Congrats to your friends.

    1. Ooh it’s been a while since I’ve seen that one. Must have a movie marathon with great wedding scenes in the picture. Should we add Spaceballs?!

      “Do you? Do you? Good! Kiss her! You’re married!”

      1. I have never seen Spaceballs! Maybe I should. 🙂

        1. WHAAAAAAT?!!!

          I repeat, “WHAAAAAT?!”

          You fix NOW!

  12. Awesome, Jess. Boy you’re a friend – getting ordained just so your friends could get married. I hope it went ok! No Mr Bean moments 🙂

    Cheers – to you and the happy couple!!

    1. I love Mr. Bean. Cracked up watching the Olympics clip of him on Donna’s blog! Alas, I don’t think Cat would’ve appreciated the gesture at that precise time.

      Thanks for the salutation, Nigel!

  13. Talk about true friendship! What a super-special experience for all of you and for all of us through your sharing. Now we want to see some photos please.

    1. LOL. Their photos will be beautiful! Her sister in law is a professional photographer, and two other friends have very high quality cameras too.

      But here, I’ll give you my favorite story of the day: After Cat finished putting on her make up, her dress, and her veil, she turned around to face all her little nieces who were anxiously awaiting to escort her upstairs. One little one named Ashley looked up at her said, “You look amazing!” *pause* “Let’s go show everyone!”

      Don’t you just melt??!

  14. Melting …. definitely! Those are the special moments that last forever!

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